Marriage..

Beep Beep. I was replying to an urgent official email. Generally I don’t like to be disturbed while at work. I checked the calling number. It was a good friend of mine who had got married some months back.

I locked my PC and went out the balcony. I answered the phone and after the usual “hi.. hellos.. what’s up..” asked her about life married after arranged marriage. She said that she was having a good time and that her husband and all her in laws are nice people. She talked about her new job and hectic schedule. She talked about why she isn’t able to prepare dinner during the weekdays due being late from office. She talked about how they go to her in-laws place every night after office to have dinner. She talked about the weekends when quality time was spent with her husband. She talked about her husband being an introvert and no nonsense guy. She talked about how well they were getting along. She talked about his friends circle. She talked about the Saturday dinners when all of them came together and had fun. She talked about the recent holiday she had enjoyed with her husband. She talked about how nothing extraordinary was happening in her life but still she was happy. She explained that everything in her life was going good because her husband and she knew that they had to love each other for things to work. She was happy because it came naturally to them. They didn’t have to put an effort to love each other.

Before hanging up I promised to stay in touch. After hanging up I was feeling happy for her.

Beep Beep. It was another friend who had got married recently some months back to his love. They had been together for three years before marrying. “What timing!” I thought.

He started talking about his life after marriage even though I didn’t ask about it. “It’s tough” he said. He talked about how they both were trapped in hectic schedules in office. He talked about the bad food the maid cooked every night for dinner. He talked about the part time MBA course which took up his weekend time, which was the only time he used to spend with her earlier. He talked about the official assignment for which she was flying to the US soon. He talked about it being a short term three month trip. He joked something about how the three months would fly by. I could clearly make out that he wanted her to stay back because he would miss her sorely. I could make out that due to active careers and lack of time for each other they were drifting apart. He then talked about how he missed his parents. His parents resided in another city. He talked about being optimistic and how life was long and they would have their share of the fun later. He talked about how difficult it was to try and do extraordinary things for each other now. He talked about the things they had done by going out of their way, just to make each other happy before marriage. He talked about how ordinary life had become. He explained that though they loved each other with all their heart he wasn’t leading a great life.

I promised to stay in touch before hanging up. After hanging up I felt bad for him.

Such is life!